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2876 No. 2876 Stickied hide watch expand quickreply   [Reply] [Gallery] [First 100 posts] [Last 50 posts]
/mind/ is used mostly for advice. However, I'm sure there are others like me who are in some kind of psychological distress and would appreciate an outlet, but can't or don't want to discuss their specific issues.

In this thread, you can just post something simple like 'X' or 'hi' or whatever. Maybe it will make you feel better.

Does this idea even make sense to anyone but me?
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>> No. 5423
>>5387

I was Right.


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Alright, this will be a temporary sticky for a bit, as I have a question for you guys.
Do you all think /mind/ could use an irc channel? I won't be able to be on it all the time (though I'd try to be on as much as possible), so I want to know if you guys think you'd use it enough to warrant its existence.
Thanks!
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>> No. 4732
Ok. We now have an irc (irc.99chan.org #mind)
If you don't know how to irc, look it up on google.
In any case, GET ON HERE!

Update: Seriously, get on here. It's really lonely in here. I promise we won't bite.


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Welcome to /mind/.

This board is primarily a place for you to talk about how messed up you are feeling, and/or for you to give advice to people who are suffering.

Discussions about psychology and psychiatry in general are also welcome.

Like the other help and advice boards (/ask/, /docta/, /india/) trolling and /b/ bullshit is not acceptable.

There is a sticky containing some broad answers to common questions - if your question/complaint is addressed by the sticky, but you post it anyway, you can expect your thread to be deleted. So read the sticky first - it is there to help you.

People are people everywhere. So make yourself comfortable on 99chan's battered second-hand psychiatrist's couch, and tell us all about it.
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>> No. 1729
IF THIS IS YOUR FIRST TIME HERE, READ THE DISCLAIMER ABOVE

Ok /mind/. This is a problem I've been hoping to address for some time. There is a good deal of discrimination against our younger users due to concerns about immaturity. This is understandable. However. It solves no problems to simply dismiss queries for advice as teenage angst. Show the great wisdom of your advanced age and stop being stupid.


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This is the Sticky of Woe. Think of it as an FAQ.

Read it before you post

Your problem may have been addressed already.
This sticky will be added to as we go along.
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Some basic advice to aid you in defeating depression:

These are some general things you should do - they absolutely won't harm you and they have a very high, fully proven success rate at getting people out of a dip:


1.) Change your diet:

Almost everyone dramatically underestimates the degree to which what you eat influences your mental health. The issues are numerous - effects of preservatives, colourings, too much sugar/salt/msg, blood sugar, small intolerances etc etc.

The fact is that good physical health has a knock on on your mental health - mind and body are not entirely separate.

A correctly functioning and happy digestive system can make a staggering amount of difference - you may think I'm full of shit, but if you're full of shit then it affects your mood, this is a fact.

So, eat more fibre. Eat regular meals. Don't overeat. Eat unprocessed food wherever possible. Good for your body, good for your health.

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I stir the food up. The sound of the oil sizzling is calming, though I stand back a bit to avoid the splatter. A couple more minutes and then turn off the heat, and it's done. Stir fry, again.
Mom's sitting there in the living room, watching her stupid TV shows. Well, she's not really watching them... her attention is all on the papers in her hands. Just a bunch of self-help paraphernalia that she gets from her twice-weekly therapist sessions. Not that it helps. She must have been in counselling for thirty years now.
Thirty years. Can trauma really do that to a person? Every morning, she acts like she was raped just yesterday. Apparently the pills don't fix things either.
I remember one time when I was younger and she had been taken off to the psych ward, I read a bit of her journal. Aside from the expected things that you wouldn't want a kid to read, she mentioned neglect. Apparently she felt neglected as a child.
I make a funny comment about my dinner. I'm pretty sure she heard it, but her eyes don't leave her paper. That stupid paper, she should know it's not going to make her any better at this point. That's how it always is. The only time I think anything I say goes through her head is when she needs help with something.
But I shouldn't complain, I never needed much affection anyway. I didn't have any friends growing up. Well, I had "friends", but you know... I didn't have any real friends. I didn't have that person you really like to be around. That person that you really care about and who really cares about you.
And for a while I took pride in the thought of having raised myself. Maybe it hurt when dad called me a hermit, or maybe I just wanted to hit him. It sure hurt when he called me fat, but I showed him... I even weigh less than my sister now.
Weighing less didn't take away that fear though. Hey, clothes fit me. That's nice. But still, I imagine those people and their prying eyes. Maybe my hair's too untidy today. I can never get it just right, there's always that rogue strand that must make me look so stupid. Maybe they'll notice.
I finish my food and he
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>> No. 5485
It's the gravy train! Once you get that declaration, free money for life. You're a parasite and everyone (with a job) hates you, but you can be off in la-la land indefinitely.

I'm on disability, too. And I hate it. I'm not particularly insane (imho), but there's no end to it, no way to leave it. I let the checks collect in my room, I refuse to do any paperwork, I lay in bed most days and do nothing, every day. It sucks, I am a parasite.

Instead of leaping towards disability, go to a therapist and get a prescription for something. There's no need to declare yourself unfit to survive.

What is your disability, anyways? You're just a tranny, that's not a disability!
>> No. 5486
>>5485

Disability hasn't done this to you. You are doing this to you. I'm on disability and I'm using it to move forward. You do realize that being declared disabled opens up a number of non-monetary assistance options and legal protections, yes?

If anything, you are more proof than I am that depression is a valid disability. You're so deep in the well you can't manage the effort to stop blaming yourself. That's fine by itself, I've been there before too, but it'd be awesome if you would not tell everyone else that they should feel that way, too. The way you feel now is a symptom. It will go away if you make it.
>> No. 5487
The OP might need meds, and some women's clothing, but why should he be on disability? Because of your own insta-diagnosis of depression? Disability is a tar pit that encourages you to do nothing since the government is providing for you. Vote Republican!


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ok /mind/ I am sure you have gotten this a million and one times, but what are some of the things you guys do when you feel down and out. I am trying to gain self love again, like what I had when I was a little kid, I want to feel that wonderful bliss once again. in return I present this wallpaper I made for my eeepc
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>> No. 5482
>5469

That's some great assumptions. Your ability to interview hypothetical people in the future is really remarkable.

Mild depression has existed since the dawn of humanity, don't think we live in a special time which is causing all this gloomy sadness. Adolescence is a particularly strong time for angst and gloominess. You get a job, or you become a crackwhore full of aids in an endless search for meaning. The choice is yours!
>> No. 5483
>>5459

Eh. Ugly and stupid are nebulous concepts. They're inherently relative, and there's nothing concrete to relate them to. Thinking in static terms like that motivates you to do nothing; why try if you're ugly and stupid?

>>5472

I don't enough about your life to tell you how to make a major change for the better. Have you tried all the stuff in the sticky of woe? You could look into cognitive therapy. You mention wanting to kill yourself. If you're seriously considering killing yourself you should probably seek professional help. I wouldn't worry about all these people trying to tell you what is and is not important. The dude telling you that no one's happier than a crackhead is full of shit. Whether joy matters more than comfort is a matter of /ph/ and it's up to you to decide.
>> No. 5484
op here, well though out today I have been practicing some of the things I have read online and positive reinforcement does help even if I have to force it after awhile it takes effect but if I stop it later in the day I do feel skfnasjb but not as much XD So hopefully one day I will not need to do constant reinforcement


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/mind/, how is the best way to deal knowing that someone/something you care greatly for is going to die soon? It's been such a roller coaster of emotions for me and I'm still not sure how to deal with it all.

I know this is going to sound silly but one of my pets has been basically given a death sentence of a few more weeks and I consider them to basically be my kids so is there any proper way of dealing with this grief? Last night I wound up so stressed out that I pretty much emptied my stomach from puking and I keep telling myself to make the time I have with this pet good but with my grieving so badly over this situation I'm not sure I can make it the best.

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>> No. 5481
She/He's going to die no matter what you do. It's understandable that you're upset, but misery will only breed more misery. What you should be doing is spending the remaining time you have left with your furry little friend. You can't change the inevitable so you might as well grin and bear it. That or copious amounts of alcohol.


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I feel bawww like if I see womens magazine cover (oddly, I'm a guy) like the stories about "how to blah blah blah boyfriend" "sex something" "sex something else"

I'm 19 and still a virgin, some days even if i happen to glance at cover, I feel sick and sad all of a sudden. I guess since I've never experienced those things, I feel worthless. What do /mind/?
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>> No. 5475
I'm gonna go ahead and guess that you either haven't, or if you have, the sex you experienced was shitty. The idea that sexuality is amoral societal programming is exactly the kind of claptrap I remember hearing from everyone I knew when I lived down south where religion still rules the way people think about sex, even if they don't go to church themselves. Sex is glamorized because it's awesome, it's a natural thing to have as a goal, and wanting and/or getting it does not make you "lose" anything or make your life less valuable. For anyone who doesn't have a deep rut of shame dug into their mind by moralizing propaganda, virginity is an albatross around the neck.
>> No. 5477
>>5475
I would argue that sex is glamorized because of the shame, actually. It's both awesome and forbidden fruit. Come on, verboten things are always more appealing.

You make these ridiculously broad statements. I'm a virgin and it is in no way an albatross around my neck. I don't have a 'deep rut of shame' either. I want to have sex as part of a meaningful relationship. I haven't managed to get to that point with anyone yet. It's not a huge deal.

OP: If your virginity in and of itself is that huge a deal to you then find a hooker. It's not that hard. But you aren't worthless. Those magazines are ridiculous. There are much more accurate scales by which to judge a person's value.
>> No. 5478
In retrospect, that was a bit too wide. It's hard for me to remember that most people experience some type of affection before they manage to screw anyone. I didn't, so I equate the period when I was a virgin to being totally unwanted by anyone. I need to remember that other people didn't experience that. Sorry.

On the other side of that though, I know I'm not the only person who feels that way. Somebody that hurts this much about not getting laid probably had this problem, and telling him that he's not missing anything by not having the thing he wants most is... unhelpful. It tends to make a person feel as though they're stupid for wanting things, which makes them waste an assload of time and effort on doing things they think they're "supposed" to want. I guess what I'm saying here is that I went broad as a reaction to the other person's broad statement that OP should be happy he's still a virgin. Some people have pretty good reasons not to be.


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How do you learn to develop trust in others when you have been betrayed too many times? I realize that in order to move on with my life and recover from my depression and anxiety, re-learning to trust other people (as well as myself, hopefully) is something that just has to happen.
>> No. 5474
Start with yourself first. Don't automatically judge or doubt yourself immediately. After you get that down, apply it externally. Sure, keep some healthy intellectual skepticism churning in social situations, but don't cast presumptuous suspicion on others when it's not called for. People are generally an even mix between selfish and generous, and you can often play nice with the positive aspects of these people if you can work it correctly.


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Some days when I'm feeling down (like today), I think no one wants anything to do with me because I tend to be negative a lot.

Sort of makes me think I'm worthless in a sense, because of the no contact.
Even the people I trust the most, I sometimes doubt if they're genuinely care about me, or just being nice or something...

I don't talk to anyone in person, and my contact list only has people I talk to rarely, or people that I just talk to once, but never bother removing...

I suppose so, dunno, haven't seen my therapist in a while because I owe her money, parents having money issues, my pay is really slow (get paid once every two weeks >.>I'm totally making an awkward moment right now

These aren't people who are happy and social btw, they also have depression and anxiety, but sometimes I think even they get annoyed and want nothing to do with me. Worst part it becomes dual sided. I want people around me, but I don't want to go to like a meetup or have family members bother me. It's very contradicting.

Seems people stop caring, or just become busy. I have a hard time trusting people as it is, what's the point if they eventually disappear anyway?

I suppose its punishment for being selfish >.>
>> No. 5471
If the other people you talk to have depression and anxiety, they more than likely feel exactly the same way. Pick one and reconnect. In fact, try to set up a time to go meet one in person. There's got to be at least one in driving/bussing distance. Maybe it won't work, or maybe it will and you just won't have a whole lot of fun. Whatever. In my experience, being successful with your social life isn't even particularly important. What makes you feel better is trying, knowing that you're making progress, being aware that the light at the end of the tunnel is getting a little closer. So, just do it. It will scare the fuck out of you, but everytime you do it, it will scare you a little less.

This idea will be less popular, but it certainly helps me, even though it does generate some pretty harsh roller coaster shit sometimes: those depressed and anxious people are probably pretty desperate. My advice is to find one of your preferred gender and straight up ask if they want to be friends with benefits. If they say no, ask a different one. You're going to get yes eventually, depressed people are whores for a good reason.

Now, be aware that whatever "relationship" you build with that person is very likely doomed. That's okay. It happens, it's natural, and it doesn't mean you can't enjoy each other while it lasts and get what you can out of it. Sometimes that's just the way people need each other, and my experience is that the popular opinion that such connections are unhealthy is a bunch of bunkass unless you attempt to unnaturally prolong them.


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