I'm sick of being lied to and let down.

Wtf man.

Also I'm sick of living a double heart(if that makes sense?) Telling one girl you love her but you're not over your ex. Who cut you from her life and ignores you cause its too hard to remember the past.

Fuck this. Fuck the new lies and aggression you've shown me.

I fucking hate where things are going

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Ok /mind/. This is a problem I've been hoping to address for some time. There is a good deal of discrimination against our younger users due to concerns about immaturity. This is understandable. However. It solves no problems to simply dismiss queries for advice as teenage angst. Show the great wisdom of your advanced age and stop being stupid.

Some basic advice to aid you in defeating depression:

These are some general things you should do - they absolutely won't harm you and they have a very high, fully proven success rate at getting people out of a dip:


1.) Change your diet:

Almost everyone dramatically underestimates the degree to which what you eat influences your mental health. The issues are numerous - effects of preservatives, colourings, too much sugar/salt/msg, blood sugar, small intolerances etc etc.

The fact is that good physical health has a knock on on your mental health - mind and body are not entirely separate.

A correctly functioning and happy digestive system can make a staggering amount of difference - you may think I'm full of shit, but if you're full of shit then it affects your mood, this is a fact.

So, eat more fibre. Eat regular meals. Don't overeat. Eat unprocessed food wherever possible. Good for your body, good for your health.

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>>4183

have you highlighted "aspie's" because you found it offensive? if so, i'm sorry.. i just thought that was slang for people with aspergers.

Remember, Autism is a spectrum disorder. This means everyone is somewhere on the spectrum. This means you could just plain be a little goofy without being full blown autistic.

You may have Asperger's, you sound a lot like me, and I've got it. Except for the part about you not getting angry, I used to rage like a motherfucker, but that may have been bipolar-related.

Congratulations, nothing changes for you now. There is no treatment, very little in the way of therapy. To be precise, therapy consists of realizing how socially inept you might be, and compensating for that. We're just a bit different than the rest of humanity, and there's nothing really better or worse about us.

The big question is, do you hyperfocus on a particular subject? Like a certain kind of dinosaur, not just dinosaurs in general? (to use a generic example.) It's a pretty common trait in Aspies.

Which, btw, is a proper slang term, although it brings with it much trolling and faggotry.

Limit outside distractions as much as possible. Unplug your TV, kill your internet connection (although you probably need it for assignments; a parental site blocker ironically does the job), and make sure you are working during hours that aren't likely to put you to sleep.

Equally, instead of holding it all to the last minute, starting earlier, and working in more manageable chunks of time leaves you less likely to be drowsy after balls-to-the-walls cram sessions. If you are still falling asleep after that, trying caffeine or maybe even seeing a professional about your sleeping habits might help.

It might seem extreme at first, but if you don't have the self discipline, the best way to fix it is to force yourself into a habit of getting that shit done. You yourself know for a fact half-assing it doesn't work. You either go the extra mile, or do a crappy job.

Do you remember when it was hell just to work yourself into that routine for the piano? Even if it wasn't, your body isn't going to be as adverse to just moving your fingers around as it will be to intense physical exercise. Getting started on something is always more difficult if it isn't a habit.

Get over to /fit/. There are a lot of motivation threads up right now, and you can also look into or ask about establishing a more standardized routine. Knowing exactly what you should be doing everyday is a big help to keeping on schedule.

To cure laziness, get a job that requires hard work, or at least constant movement. Make yourself hold on to it for a while, and you'll start to get antsy when you sit for too long. You'll come to enjoy the results of a hard day of work.

It depends on what you're bitter about. If you just think that life sucks, yeah, it does. But it sucks for everyone, so some of us stopped caring and started dealing with it. If someone fucked you over, that's different.

To stop being envious, take a look at how those people feel about their lives, and realize that pretty much all the rich people are stressed-out psychos that have more problems than poorfags. Being rich comes with a new set of problems.

To stop being spiteful, talk to enough people IRL that you gain a sense of their perspective. Mentally flip around what you're doing to people, and you'll come to realize that being a jackass really isn't all that good of an idea. Also, it gets boring.

If that's too hard, try religion. I recommend being a Christfag, 'cause the Bible is all about not being lazy, bitter, envious, or spiteful. It's more about working hard, forgiving people, and living for more than this world. Buddhism wouldn't be bad, but the retirement plan sucks.

I was just like this. Find some hobbies to keep you occupied. People hobbies -- ones that involve interaction. WoW doesn't count, trust me, It's fun but it'll totally fuck your shit up. If you're smoking weed, take a break. If you can get your hands on some adderoll then I'd highly recommend it, find a friend with adhd or do your research on it and mention those symptoms to a psychiatrist, he'll give you something for it. It'll get you really motivated. Basically force yourself, It'll be hard and awkward at first, but once you break the ice it gets easier. You most definitely just have too much time of your hands. Don't worry bro, It'll work out.

These are both solid advice, and I'd just like to add that constant reinforcement is the key to making these changes stick. You've got certain mental habits and you're gonna try to change them, so that's gonna take mindful practice to do it.

It's really typical to just read some good advice and go "yeah, yeah, sounds good, will do" and then of course you forget all about it in an hour.
I use a time-management app. called Life Balance that is good for recurring events to put in reminders of stuff that I need to think about.

Every day I use this app and it's like my "auto-nagger", right, 'cuz it reminds me to do things.
Have better posture. Make eye contact & smile at strangers. Be as friendly as possible. Clean the bathroom. Call or send somebody I know an email. Go outside for a walk. etc. etc. You can set the interval of repeating... like every day it'd be good to see some advice, and maybe you clean the bathroom once every three days, or whatever. You check in with the app., it puts some stuff on the screen to read, you click a checkbox when done, and go on your way, thx much.

There a lots of apps. like that; the point is to get one and get using it and it can really help you out with many things.

>>4172
I'm not that extreme. I know my limits as a person, and I know everything can't be explained by one thing, but I do see your point and I am willing to give what you're saying a shot. Can i get a summary of what Jungian thought is? Too lazy to google it right now and I like hearing personal opinions on subjects rather than the general outline of it.

>>4173
Yeah I am trying to take care of myself first. I mean, you have 1 life to live, so why not just spend it bettering humanity. Maybe I'll save a family from someone psychotic breakdown? You never know. As long as I'm better humanity in some way.

Oh and sorry for my grammar. I'm pretty tired right now.

>>4175
Hmm, basically Jung was one of the first psychoanalysis and had a friendship with Freud, then ultimatley broke from him due to his differing views. While Freud downplayed religion as a disease, Jung thought it was one of the great functions of the human psyche and went on to theorize about man's compulsion to create symbols and what they mean, an examination of the occult, seemingly unrelated events that are actually related by a proposed universal consciousness (a theory called Synchronicity), amongst other things.

Basically he was a guy who sought to bring rational explanations to seemingly unexplainable things He was pretty succesfull at doing so, and his thought remains influential to this day. He's a great transition for anyone stuck in a purely rationalistic mindset to expand their horizons.

Then after that, you can plunge yourself into actual spirituality.

Ahh, jumping out of the body eh? Try the following mental exercise:
>We live in a mentally constructed universe by the way, and though this may be difficult at first due to the in-the-moment 'zone' that you're experiencing, it will get easier with practice.

1. The 'mantra': "My mind is in my body, here and now."
>You should never allow your attention to be drawn from you be someone else

2a. visualize something like a belt made of some thoroughly resilient material encircling your 5th (throat <communication>)and 6th (forehead,<third-eye>) chakras, blocking all unwanted escape of energy.

2b. visualize something like a large double-sided mirror, blocking both incoming an outgoing mental and communicative energies.

Enjoy thy solidity!

As someone who has dealt with depersonalization throughout his entire life (yes, even as a child), I can offer a few insights.

How often do you think of existential/psychological/philosophical things? How often do you smoke pot/ take psychedelics?

I find that because I'm constantly thinking along the lines of philosophical tangents, I dissociate myself from reality and I get the feelings you described. It can be frightening sometimes and if you try to fix it by simply thinking about it more, you make it exponentially worse. So how do you get rid of it? Just live and learn to ignore it. You'll find that your consciousness shifts throughout the day, and since your consciousness includes your sense of body and sense of space and time, those change as well. This is normal. It is not normal to obsess and analyze why you feel that way though.

Perhaps I am going to deep into the subject. I guess I really need to know WHAT you're thinking about when you zone out and think of 4 things at once.

Also, weed and psychedelics can exacerbate dissociation.

Have you done any psychedelic drugs? If so then that very well may be the case. This type of thing happened to me after psychedelics as well. Sometimes it goes away shortly, sometimes it takes a long fucking period of time to do so. Try meditating, even if it turns out scary you can't stop, just keep going. You'll be enlightened. no pain no gain. Think about your thoughts from different perspectives, even if you don't agree with those said perspectives, just try to imagine yourself in that mindset. Now, imagine yourself watching a short movie clip from those perspectives. One playing right next to the other in almost like a split-screen. All playing at once centered around the one thing in which they perceive. If you do it right, you'll realize something.