Listen the fuck up. Read this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_distortion and realize what you are doing, or we will yell at you for being a dumbass.

fuck I wish my college had house parties like that. Either its a byob rugby shitfest or some frat fucks charging 7 dollars to drink cheap ass vodka and dance.

>>33974
I think it's a skins after-party; chose the pic because skins was mostly filmed in my area and the party I was at was very similar.
>>33976
Sucks to be you; it was just a general "hey it's my birthday and his birthday BYOB" party
>>33971
It's not the age thing - I'm 18, she's 16 - it's more a personality thing.

Ok, so I guess I'll count myself lucky that I get to go to awesome parties which are apparently much rarer than I realised and try to stop over-analysing the whole situation.

>>33976
Some colleges are absolutely ridiculous with partying. My ex was rooming with a girl who went out and drank 3-4 days a week. At a lot of colleges there are parties from thuers to sat

>>33988

Honestly I hate furries. The first thing that pops into my head is YIFF IN HELL! I do not understand it. Is it related to bestiality? People pretend they are human/animal hybrids? I LOVE animals. I just do NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND wtf they do with this fur faggotry. I do not fucking get it. It mystifies me. But for this guy I would jack off in a Snoopy Suit while MURRING like a motherfucker. That is how I know I am falling for him.

He is 19 and I am 32. He might be lying about being a virgin but I can see absolutely no reason why he would need to. I would not care if he fucked everyone in the state.

I wish the only reason he didn't like me was because I hate furries. Shit you make me feel better already. I can honestly say that I have never known a furry in my life.

I don't want to ignore him. I want to talk to him but I know I will be trying to flirt with him and hit on him and it will most likely piss him off and make him hate me even more. Guess I will go back to women. Boring, nothing in common, have no desire to talk to them other than for sex women.

You're thinking about this the wrong way, guy.

A furry told you you're weird. You know without me telling you how completely fucking ridiculous that is. To hell with that kid. You don't want the first step of your gay adventure to be with somebody that stupid and crazy.

If you saw this guy I think you would fall for him too. He is so fucking hawt. God I feel so fucking gay saying that. His hair falls in front of his eyes and the way he brushes it back I want to explode. He has these really pouty lips that I just want to lick. The way he sings it is like he puts his entire being into his music. Everyone else around him just stands there like a robot. My heart skips a beat watching him. Zeus dammit if I am never able to be with this guy I am going to be really pissed off. I go after what I want aggressively and I almost always get what I want. I will be pissed if I do not have him.

>>33994

Talking to as in how you would chat someone up in preparation to date them. Sent the guy pics of her with her camera on her phone and shit (after she told me it wasn't working.) And the reason I don't doubt she's fucking him is because her self-esteem is shit and if you even show the slightest bit of interest in her, she'll hop into bed with you. Plus, she's told people that all the guy wants to do is fuck her, and the only reason why she'd do anything with him is to make me jealous.

Well, screw her then. You get over this by not letting her win. Why be jealous about losing a bitch? You know you can do better.

I think that she trusts to easily, she 'loves' to easily, gets attached easily. You're probably not just another 'notch on the bedpost'.

She probably did like you, and then another man caught her eye and she was so infatuated that she literally forgot about you. (men do it too, probably more often). I've been cheated on, and been played. Now atleast you have experience in knowing that you shouldn't trust so easily. Try to find out more about a girl in areas like this before dating, I know its rude to ask things like that to a person, but even ask friends of hers. That probably could have definetly curbed dating a whore.

Or is she only a whore because of this guy (not saying you aren't justified in calling her it because of that), and not because of any past things you may have heard?

If her self esteen is so bad, then don't totally blame her for having sex with someone else. If you're not dating, then well... you're not dating. She is free, as are you. She moved on quickly, and she's probably just one of those girls that need an emotional crutch, some people (like me) just have hard time handeling life without affection, wether physical or emotional.

Being okay with this sort of thing is not better than being uncomfortable with it, it's just different. It requires a different mindset, and in some ways a different set of skills.

If this type of relationship is something you could see yourself being interested in, then you should pursue it, but not with these two. They are doing it completely wrong and fucking with your head, and it's generally pretty awful. You don't need to feel bad about turning down a pair of people who think springing this shit on you out of nowhere is a good idea.

You don't have to stop any contact with them if you enjoy being around them or are friends. I think probably you should tell them that you don't really like it, and that you're not interested.

If you still want to be friends though, just try to say it in a light hearted way. Try to just brush it off instead of making a huge deal about it because it doesn't seem like a huge deal to you. It is pretty rude for them to do that though imo.

>>33968
Easy there white knight. By all means, people make mistakes and forgiveness and understanding aren't exactly bad things, sure, I'm fine with that. Pretending OP isn't well within his right to react negatively to this kind of information and decide he wants nothing to do with the slut is just silly though.

>>33972

Easy there black knight. By all means, people make mistakes and forgiveness and understanding aren't exactly bad things, sure, I'm fine with that. Pretending you are well within your rights to judge someone who went through a rough period is just silly though.

>>33972
OP can be as repulsed by this as he wants to be. I wouldn't be to happy, but then again, I've learned from past experience NOT to ask my partner about his past sexlife, or tell him about mine.
When OP has sex with her, she must atleast think that he cares for her and perhaps loves her. OP has not mentioned at all in his posts that he cares about her, he basically says "guys this girl won't leave me alone we keep having sex even though i am totally grossed out by it and she told me stuff and now i think shes a whore, oh and btw shes my girlfriend'. Seriously man.. if you're so unhappy with her and all you have to say about her is all the things you hate, then why are you dating her. Do the girl some good and dump her ass, if you won't care for her, someone else is probably more than willing to take your place.
You act so disgusted to see her, hear her, anything to do with her. Why would you ever agree to sex in the first place, and if you're so repulsed how does she not notice that you have a gross look on your face during sex.

Pet play?

Anyway, if your kinks aren't compatible, then you need to find compromises. Figure out where your hard limits are, and then sort of set up an exchange with the rest of the space. This will require a whole shitload of talking. Keep in mind that many kinks can be mixed together in fun ways, too. If a session includes something for everyone, then sometimes you can learn to like some things he does, and vice versa.

One thing about BDSM that you should remember is that it generally incorporates a certain amount of roleplay. I am generally a very servile person (though I wouldn't call myself sub, since it angers me when I feel I can't decide things) and enjoy being smacked by hot girls. However, once I get horny, things can be different if my partner plays a certain role. A sub isn't just on the floor all the time, you know: sometimes she has to do something to be punished for. Start a ticklefight with him or something like that, and enjoy the sting of his playful revenge. It's not exactly what you want, but it can awaken a desire in him that could lead there.

If all else fails, you could also talk to him about opening the relationship. This is a thing that's pretty common with kinksters because it feels alot less threatening than just saying "ok, you can go bone other people." If you're looking outside the relationship to find a very specific thing, then the two of you can make rules that will keep things stable even if you are not normally accustomed to open relationships. The one thing you need to remember, since it can be a problem for some subs, is that you can't let your dom tell you to do anything that screws with your relationship with your boyfriend.

Pey play like collars, leashes. Not with actual pets mind you. Hah. We've talked a lot about it, my boyfriend and I, in the past, but we can never really come up with anything. He does try every once in a while, but they are very very sad attempts. I'm happy when he tries but if it's horrible... well... then I'm not really sure what to do. And we would open up the relationship except I'm a jealous person and want him all to myself. I'd be more open to one if I already had a dom in mind, but alas, I do not. I'll try to talk to him again, and maybe bring up the possibility of a poly relationship. Thank you so much!

>>33998

Well, the benefit here is that as far as you've told us, the main thing he needs that you can't provide is something he doesn't need another person for anyway. Why not just get a dog and let him have his fun with it?

It depends what flavor she is. If she avoids others just because she's shy, then you need to be gentle and nice with her until she starts talking. If she avoids others because she dislikes the usual conventions of socialization, then it's best to skip trying to start a conversation with her and just get to the point.

How you find out which, I don't know. You could ask her friends, but they don't necessarily have a good idea themselves.

Get up and go out...try a club or something with music to your taste and i'm not saying try and pull everything you see with tits while you're at it, but just get out and around people even if you don't know them.

I was in a relationship for nearly 3 years and got told by her a few weeks before xmas that she'd cheated on me a few weeks in...first i'd heard of it. Two weeks after xmas i'm single and now i'm in this depression caused by her, my cock flatmate and work i don't enjoy. I've met a few people whom said flatmate invited in the first place so i had a bit of a leg up in this, but through them i've been out and just chilled in whatever environment i ended up in for the first time in two years. I go out to a club here almost every week now and in the last few i've met a shitload of new people who've done nothing but make me feel better. I've got more mates now than i ever did. I actually feel good.

After i broke from her, i was just planning on staying single for a while, at least until Uni was done with this July...but i was keeping an open mind for whatever came, if it was going to.

I'm onto something already and i actually feel it's worth going for. Hell of a turnaround in my mood i'd say. Give it a go mate, see if it helps, it sure did me.