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15155 No. 15155 Locked Stickied hide watch quickreply   [Reply] [Gallery]
Welcome to /docta/.

This is the place to be for help with your relationships. Having some boy/girl trouble? Feel free to post. Wondering what the best way to please your boy/girl is? We can do that too.

We do not limit our advice to heterosexual relationships. If you are bi/poly/a/trans-sexual, please do not feel that you cannot post here.

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>> No. 31275
Listen the fuck up. Read this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_distortion and realize what you are doing, or we will yell at you for being a dumbass.


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4409 No. 4409 Stickied hide watch quickreply   [Reply] [Gallery] [First 100 posts] [Last 50 posts]
I've been lurking and posting on /docta/ for some time now. One thing I've noticed is that the same questions get asked over and over again. What are good places to meet women? How do I approach a woman? How do I avoid the friendzone? Etc etc etc ...

So here's what I'm thinking: we make a thread compiling all of our knowledge on how to meet women and start relationships (whether romantic or purely sexual).

Write out everything you know about picking up chicks. We'll compile the ultimate /docta/ thread about the basics of meeting attractive members of the opposite sex. Maybe we can even get it stickied. That way, when someone poor anon comes in here , instead of asking "Where/how do I meet women?" for the millionth time, they can just read this thread. We won't have to constantly answer the same questions.

So let's get this ball rolling, doctas. My contribution will follow.
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Ok, I am feeling rather confused.
I went to the most stereotypically teenage (well... 18th) house party last weekend. I got terifically drunk, and ended up making out with this other drunk girl I kinda half knew from college.
It was a really odd experience. Although my memories get really hazy further on in the night, I definately remember that she was the one doing the kissing. When she made her move, I was inebriated to the point where I probably couldn't have escaped if I wanted to. As far as the actual kissing, I could hardly feel my mouth, but it was the emotional side of things that got me. Here I was, doing the most stereotypically male thing, and yet I felt completely emasculated because I had basicly no choice in it.
Then suddenly I'm on a sofa, it's light outside and the music has stopped.

I crawl home with my regular mates, indulge in breakfast pizza and when I check facebook for any evidence of what happened I see a "How're you? Did you have a good time last night? :)"

My questions are:
1) Am I a dick, or a pussy?
2) What the fuck do I do when I run into her at college? How does a girl feel when she drunkenly makes out with a random guy?

Judge me, /docta/
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>> No. 33976
fuck I wish my college had house parties like that. Either its a byob rugby shitfest or some frat fucks charging 7 dollars to drink cheap ass vodka and dance.
>> No. 33991
>>33974
I think it's a skins after-party; chose the pic because skins was mostly filmed in my area and the party I was at was very similar.
>>33976
Sucks to be you; it was just a general "hey it's my birthday and his birthday BYOB" party
>>33971
It's not the age thing - I'm 18, she's 16 - it's more a personality thing.

Ok, so I guess I'll count myself lucky that I get to go to awesome parties which are apparently much rarer than I realised and try to stop over-analysing the whole situation.
>> No. 34006
>>33976
Some colleges are absolutely ridiculous with partying. My ex was rooming with a girl who went out and drank 3-4 days a week. At a lot of colleges there are parties from thuers to sat


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33973 No. 33973 hide watch expand quickreply   [Reply] [Gallery]
Ron Paul /docta/

I thought I was straight. I have fallen in love with a Gay Furry. We hung out one time and went to the movies. I told him that I am very attracted to him but he said I am old and weird. Now I can't fap to any pronz and I can't stop thinking about him.

He is amazing. He sings like a pro, his eyes are hypnotic, his lips are seductive. He plays like 7 instruments, he listens to awesome music, he is amazing at video games. I have more in common with him than all of the females that I have ever dated. I am unfortunately 13 years older than him.......and I am fucking weird.

I know I will never get over him and I have stayed off the chat we were using because I figured he wants nothing to do with me.

I am in a bad spot and I could use something to help. Plox. septa-phalli banned me and I have no where else to go to.
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>>33988

Honestly I hate furries. The first thing that pops into my head is YIFF IN HELL! I do not understand it. Is it related to bestiality? People pretend they are human/animal hybrids? I LOVE animals. I just do NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND wtf they do with this fur faggotry. I do not fucking get it. It mystifies me. But for this guy I would jack off in a Snoopy Suit while MURRING like a motherfucker. That is how I know I am falling for him.

He is 19 and I am 32. He might be lying about being a virgin but I can see absolutely no reason why he would need to. I would not care if he fucked everyone in the state.

I wish the only reason he didn't like me was because I hate furries. Shit you make me feel better already. I can honestly say that I have never known a furry in my life.

I don't want to ignore him. I want to talk to him but I know I will be trying to flirt with him and hit on him and it will most likely piss him off and make him hate me even more. Guess I will go back to women. Boring, nothing in common, have no desire to talk to them other than for sex women.
>> No. 33995
You're thinking about this the wrong way, guy.

A furry told you you're weird. You know without me telling you how completely fucking ridiculous that is. To hell with that kid. You don't want the first step of your gay adventure to be with somebody that stupid and crazy.
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If you saw this guy I think you would fall for him too. He is so fucking hawt. God I feel so fucking gay saying that. His hair falls in front of his eyes and the way he brushes it back I want to explode. He has these really pouty lips that I just want to lick. The way he sings it is like he puts his entire being into his music. Everyone else around him just stands there like a robot. My heart skips a beat watching him. Zeus dammit if I am never able to be with this guy I am going to be really pissed off. I go after what I want aggressively and I almost always get what I want. I will be pissed if I do not have him.


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I'm so fucking angry with myself. Just got out of my first "relationship" with a girl who's turned out to be nothing but a whore. It's so fucked up how when I had feelings for her, I became an idiot and turned a blind eye to what I found out about her and what people told me.

What really just kills me is that she told me all this shit about how much she loved me and cared for me, when at the same time she started talking to some piece of shit who she works with. (and who I also have no doubt that she's fucking now.) Knowing all this makes me feel cheap, like I'm another one of classless bastards she's fucked in the past and will continue fucking for the rest of her life since it's all she knows.

Can anyone relate, even barely? How did you get over this?
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>> No. 33997
>>33994

Talking to as in how you would chat someone up in preparation to date them. Sent the guy pics of her with her camera on her phone and shit (after she told me it wasn't working.) And the reason I don't doubt she's fucking him is because her self-esteem is shit and if you even show the slightest bit of interest in her, she'll hop into bed with you. Plus, she's told people that all the guy wants to do is fuck her, and the only reason why she'd do anything with him is to make me jealous.
>> No. 34000
Well, screw her then. You get over this by not letting her win. Why be jealous about losing a bitch? You know you can do better.
>> No. 34004
I think that she trusts to easily, she 'loves' to easily, gets attached easily. You're probably not just another 'notch on the bedpost'.

She probably did like you, and then another man caught her eye and she was so infatuated that she literally forgot about you. (men do it too, probably more often). I've been cheated on, and been played. Now atleast you have experience in knowing that you shouldn't trust so easily. Try to find out more about a girl in areas like this before dating, I know its rude to ask things like that to a person, but even ask friends of hers. That probably could have definetly curbed dating a whore.

Or is she only a whore because of this guy (not saying you aren't justified in calling her it because of that), and not because of any past things you may have heard?

If her self esteen is so bad, then don't totally blame her for having sex with someone else. If you're not dating, then well... you're not dating. She is free, as are you. She moved on quickly, and she's probably just one of those girls that need an emotional crutch, some people (like me) just have hard time handeling life without affection, wether physical or emotional.


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so I was phoning with someone and suddelnly her boyfriend makes out with her and askes her if she is alright with that. Of course he likes doing this taboo and asks her rather to excite her.. She then says she can imagine this beeing an interesting situation for him but she also feels she might hurt my feelings because she makes me a guinea pic in this situation and explains me her feelings like she describes it from someone else. Then they go on for a couple of moments while she breathes in my ear and afterwards she asks me "in general do you think we can go along without hurting our feelings"? Basically she was talking about a threesome relationship and she claimed that on their way to be themselves they have to past some limits (mostly someone ele's) So I can tell her, wether I am hurt and she will stop doing so.
I dont know if I still want to have contact with those, it was quite rude at the same time they claim it to be a procedure of finding someones limits or even be ok with it...To be honest I dont like them much, but I find myself confronted that maybe Im not "open minded" enough if I cut the contact. Any thoughts?
pic related, my feeling when she told me he is licking her nipples while I dont even I dont know do not want
>> No. 34001
Being okay with this sort of thing is not better than being uncomfortable with it, it's just different. It requires a different mindset, and in some ways a different set of skills.

If this type of relationship is something you could see yourself being interested in, then you should pursue it, but not with these two. They are doing it completely wrong and fucking with your head, and it's generally pretty awful. You don't need to feel bad about turning down a pair of people who think springing this shit on you out of nowhere is a good idea.
>> No. 34003
You don't have to stop any contact with them if you enjoy being around them or are friends. I think probably you should tell them that you don't really like it, and that you're not interested.

If you still want to be friends though, just try to say it in a light hearted way. Try to just brush it off instead of making a huge deal about it because it doesn't seem like a huge deal to you. It is pretty rude for them to do that though imo.


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/Docta/ you've gotta help me.

Put yourself in this situation.

You're a germaphobe, a full blown germaphobe. You hate sex because you're covered in your sweat and the other person's sweat, and whatever fluids they are secreting. You HATE sex. HATE IT. But you do it for your partner because you know it feels good for them, you just buck up and take it like a man. A year into your relationship your partner tells you that they used to fuck random guys for drugs, used to get into threesomes at parties, used to let random guys fuck them just cause. You're a germaphobe, sex is already bad enough for you, now thoughts of your partner getting railed by hundreds of guys who probably had STDs, and your partner sharing drugs and fucking random guys, these thoughts are pulsing through your mind and you are having a psychological breakdown. Your partner has a very "special" night planned for tomorrow.



TLDR; I'm a germaphobe and I've been having sex with a complete and total fucking whore, and I'm having a breakdown and I don't know how to tell her that I cannot even think about her, let alone see her tomorrow for our "special night", or possibly any other night.
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>> No. 33972
>>33968
Easy there white knight. By all means, people make mistakes and forgiveness and understanding aren't exactly bad things, sure, I'm fine with that. Pretending OP isn't well within his right to react negatively to this kind of information and decide he wants nothing to do with the slut is just silly though.
>> No. 33987
>>33972

Easy there black knight. By all means, people make mistakes and forgiveness and understanding aren't exactly bad things, sure, I'm fine with that. Pretending you are well within your rights to judge someone who went through a rough period is just silly though.
>> No. 34002
>>33972
OP can be as repulsed by this as he wants to be. I wouldn't be to happy, but then again, I've learned from past experience NOT to ask my partner about his past sexlife, or tell him about mine.
When OP has sex with her, she must atleast think that he cares for her and perhaps loves her. OP has not mentioned at all in his posts that he cares about her, he basically says "guys this girl won't leave me alone we keep having sex even though i am totally grossed out by it and she told me stuff and now i think shes a whore, oh and btw shes my girlfriend'. Seriously man.. if you're so unhappy with her and all you have to say about her is all the things you hate, then why are you dating her. Do the girl some good and dump her ass, if you won't care for her, someone else is probably more than willing to take your place.
You act so disgusted to see her, hear her, anything to do with her. Why would you ever agree to sex in the first place, and if you're so repulsed how does she not notice that you have a gross look on your face during sex.


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Well I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year now (I'm a girl) and I have been looking for some advice. My boyfriend is really into anal and bestiality and I'm really more into BDSM, pet play, and watersports. I'm a submissive but he's not really a dominant person. I am ok with anal but it's not my favorite and it just seems like we don't really mesh no matter how hard we try. Since we can't really find a compromise we mostly stay with really vanilla sex and I mean it's alright, I still get off every time and so does he, but neither of us really get the sick satisfaction that you should get out of a real good kinky fucking. But I honestly do love him and we are perfectly happy in every other aspect of our relationship, so I really have no right to complain. Does anyone see any solutions or compromises? How can we get past this? And now as a woman here I am rambling again... please help! Thank you! :)
>> No. 33993
Pet play?

Anyway, if your kinks aren't compatible, then you need to find compromises. Figure out where your hard limits are, and then sort of set up an exchange with the rest of the space. This will require a whole shitload of talking. Keep in mind that many kinks can be mixed together in fun ways, too. If a session includes something for everyone, then sometimes you can learn to like some things he does, and vice versa.

One thing about BDSM that you should remember is that it generally incorporates a certain amount of roleplay. I am generally a very servile person (though I wouldn't call myself sub, since it angers me when I feel I can't decide things) and enjoy being smacked by hot girls. However, once I get horny, things can be different if my partner plays a certain role. A sub isn't just on the floor all the time, you know: sometimes she has to do something to be punished for. Start a ticklefight with him or something like that, and enjoy the sting of his playful revenge. It's not exactly what you want, but it can awaken a desire in him that could lead there.

If all else fails, you could also talk to him about opening the relationship. This is a thing that's pretty common with kinksters because it feels alot less threatening than just saying "ok, you can go bone other people." If you're looking outside the relationship to find a very specific thing, then the two of you can make rules that will keep things stable even if you are not normally accustomed to open relationships. The one thing you need to remember, since it can be a problem for some subs, is that you can't let your dom tell you to do anything that screws with your relationship with your boyfriend.
>> No. 33998
Pey play like collars, leashes. Not with actual pets mind you. Hah. We've talked a lot about it, my boyfriend and I, in the past, but we can never really come up with anything. He does try every once in a while, but they are very very sad attempts. I'm happy when he tries but if it's horrible... well... then I'm not really sure what to do. And we would open up the relationship except I'm a jealous person and want him all to myself. I'd be more open to one if I already had a dom in mind, but alas, I do not. I'll try to talk to him again, and maybe bring up the possibility of a poly relationship. Thank you so much!
>> No. 33999
>>33998

Well, the benefit here is that as far as you've told us, the main thing he needs that you can't provide is something he doesn't need another person for anyway. Why not just get a dog and let him have his fun with it?


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i have a problem /docta/ not huge but i have little experience in these situations

i have this fairly hot chick who plays WoW and loves CSN-Y as i do, i have the opertunity to fuck / date this chick. If it wasn't the fact that she is very anti-social i'd be on this like shit on velcrol. Her closest friends say she took a long while top open up and talk to them and i've said very few words to her i've tried to spark up conversations but she doesn't give much back. So i ask you /bb/ what has been your experience with anti-social women???

Btw: pretty introverted myself not a party guy..... except LAN parties HNNNNNNNNNG
>> No. 33992
It depends what flavor she is. If she avoids others just because she's shy, then you need to be gentle and nice with her until she starts talking. If she avoids others because she dislikes the usual conventions of socialization, then it's best to skip trying to start a conversation with her and just get to the point.

How you find out which, I don't know. You could ask her friends, but they don't necessarily have a good idea themselves.


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Please help me out, guys.
I dated a girl who screwed me over about four times in our two year relationship. But I kept running back to her because I was so in love. She was everything I wanted and I was content with being with her for the rest of my life. She was smart, pretty, nice, (or so I fooled myself into believing,) and motivated. But she was a horrible Girlfriend.
This isn't really relevant so I'll try and shorten this...
I spent the past 24 hours in bed. I only got up once to eat, and to go on the comp, (how I got here.) I told my friend who I thought was someone I could say things like this too and she snapped at me and called me a "wholly pathetic person" because I let this girl fuck me over and here I am feeling sorry for myself. If my friend is going to be a fuckin' prick about my shit cuz she pents things up, that's her problem, but it did just add to this depression.
I wanna know how I can make things better and be content with myself.
I don't want anyone telling me to "man up." I was just broken up with by a girl who I had dated for nearly two years. I deserve to grieve.
Here's one of the problems, I'm living in a town 400 miles from my hometown. I know NO ONE.
And I'm going to have to be single for the next few years, I got a taste of brown sugar and the only black chicks where I live are crazy, poor and enjoy playing up on that ghetto bullshit. So eventually I'll end up in Brooklyn meeting women
>> No. 33986
Get up and go out...try a club or something with music to your taste and i'm not saying try and pull everything you see with tits while you're at it, but just get out and around people even if you don't know them.

I was in a relationship for nearly 3 years and got told by her a few weeks before xmas that she'd cheated on me a few weeks in...first i'd heard of it. Two weeks after xmas i'm single and now i'm in this depression caused by her, my cock flatmate and work i don't enjoy. I've met a few people whom said flatmate invited in the first place so i had a bit of a leg up in this, but through them i've been out and just chilled in whatever environment i ended up in for the first time in two years. I go out to a club here almost every week now and in the last few i've met a shitload of new people who've done nothing but make me feel better. I've got more mates now than i ever did. I actually feel good.

After i broke from her, i was just planning on staying single for a while, at least until Uni was done with this July...but i was keeping an open mind for whatever came, if it was going to.

I'm onto something already and i actually feel it's worth going for. Hell of a turnaround in my mood i'd say. Give it a go mate, see if it helps, it sure did me.


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